And the terrible, beautiful truth? You never get equal. Some days you give 90 and receive 10. Some days they carry you across a room you didn't even realize you were bleeding in. But over a lifetime — if both of you keep showing up to the trade — it balances. Not mathematically. Musically.
Love, as they sell it to us, is not love. It's a transaction dressed in silk. But real love? Real love is still an exchange — just not the kind they warn you about.
People think exchange in love is cold. They think it's bargaining. But no — it's the most sacred barter system in the world. You give attention. They give presence. You give patience. They give honesty. You give a Saturday afternoon of silence, just sitting beside them while they grieve something they can't name. And they give you a Tuesday morning coffee, made exactly the way you forgot to ask for.