Influence The Psychology Of Persuasion By Robert Cialdini -

Cialdini opens with the story of the Hare Krishna society. In the 1970s, they were struggling to raise money. Then they changed their tactic. Instead of asking for donations, they started walking up to strangers in airports and handing them a flower (or a "gift" of a small book). The moment the tourist took the flower—even if they didn't want it—the Krishna would say, "This is our gift to you." Then they asked for a donation. Because the tourist felt indebted, the money poured in.

This is the most obvious, yet most overlooked, principle. We are much more likely to buy a car from a friend than a stranger. Cialdini breaks down the factors that make us like someone: (we assume pretty people are smart), Similarity (we like people who dress like us, have the same hobbies), Compliments (even if we know they are false, we love them), Familiarity (the "mere exposure" effect), and Association (we like the person who brings us good news). influence the psychology of persuasion by robert cialdini

The magic happens when the commitment is . Fraternities make pledges endure painful "hazing" not to be cruel, but because if you work hard to join a group, you will convince yourself the group is amazing to justify the effort. Cialdini opens with the story of the Hare Krishna society