Don't try to win an argument in Japanese. Try to read the air ( Kuuki o yomu ). Rule #2: When someone says "Chotto..." (It's a little...), they actually mean "Absolutely impossible, but I am saving your face."
Bob was confused. "But I just said 'I hear you,' not 'I agree'!" nihongo notes pdf
Once upon a time in the bustling wards of Tokyo, a flood of foreign professionals—engineers, bankers, and diplomats—arrived to ride the wave of Japan’s economic miracle. They were smart, highly educated, and utterly lost. Don't try to win an argument in Japanese
Enter the Mizutanis. They began writing a tiny column in The Japan Times titled The First Lesson (The "Aizuchi" Disaster) The story goes that a young American businessman, let’s call him "Bob," was taught that to be polite, he must say Hai (Yes) constantly. In a meeting, his Japanese boss explained a complex shipping schedule. Bob nodded and said Hai, hai, hai fifteen times. "But I just said 'I hear you,' not 'I agree'
The gap between Classroom Nihongo and Real Nihongo .