To stop sabotaging your success, you must teach your nervous system that it is safe to feel good. Practice gratitude not as a platitude, but as a neurological exercise. Literally say out loud: "It is safe for me to win. It is safe for me to be happy." One of Wiest’s most powerful lessons is that you cannot let the child you used to be drive the car of your adult life.
Pick one area where you self-sabotage today. Don't try to fix it. Just sit with the feeling that arises right before you do the behavior. Name that feeling. That is the first step of the climb. The Mountain Is You - Transforming Self-Sabotag...
Think about it. That voice that tells you to quit the diet? It is trying to keep you in the comfort of sugar. That voice that stops you from asking for a raise? It is trying to keep you safe from the "danger" of rejection. That voice that picks a fight with your partner just when things are going well? It is trying to protect you from the unknown territory of intimacy. To stop sabotaging your success, you must teach